Relationships between siblings can be strong, but others may be strained. A woman posted to Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole” forum when she was accused by her sister of trying to upstage her before her wedding after losing nearly 100 pounds.
The Redditor, Late-Water-9669, wrote in her post with more than 17,000 votes and more than 2,000 comments that she started to implement some lifestyle changes and managed to lose almost 100 pounds over the course of a year. She explained that she does not live close to her family and does not post on her social media accounts, so her family wasn’t aware of her weight loss. The Redditor explained that she told them that she was making more health-conscious decisions, but did not get into specifics.
“It’s just that every time before that I’ve tried to lose weight it hasn’t worked out so I didn’t want anyone commenting on it,” she wrote.
The post continued that Late-Water-9669’s younger sister’s wedding was approaching in just days.
“It’s happening a week from now and because I haven’t seen everyone in so long I decided to come down two weeks earlier to help out and catch up,” she wrote.
However, Late-Water-9669’s family had a different reaction than what she hoped for.
“When I came to see my family my sister freaked out upon seeing me,” the Redditor wrote. “As it turns out she has gained a bit of weight not super noticeable to me she still looks great. But I think this is the first time in our lives that I’m smaller than her. I’ve always been the ‘fat sister.'”
She went on to say that her sister “basically accused” her of trying to upstage her before her wedding day. Their parents and other family members sided with Late-Water-9669’s sister.
“I’m not really sure if I’m in the wrong here as so many of my [family members] are taking her side of things,” Late-Water-9669 wrote.
Though most of her family sided with her sister, the vast majority of Redditors supported Late-Water-9669.
“Wow OP, you spent a whole year of your life losing weight and [making] sacrifices just to upstage your sister?! How dedicated and petty of you,” one Redditor commented, making it clear they were sarcastic.
Other readers wrote that the Redditor’s sister could have taken their reunion as an opportunity to congratulate her for her lifestyle changes.
“Instead of being happy that her sister is making healthy changes, she made it about herself,” one comment read.
Another wrote that the reaction may have been understandable if Late-Water-9669 made a grand entrance the day of the wedding, but it seemed her sister was projecting her own insecurities.
One Redditor shared a personal experience in which their friend was overweight while they were physically fit. At a gathering, their friend arrived and was much more physically fit than before while the commenter gained some weight.
“I was extremely happy for him,” they wrote. “I don’t understand being awful to people you are supposed to care about because they have improved themselves.”
Readers also commented on the family dynamic and why family members took the Redditor’s sister’s side. They called them toxic and suggested this was how she was consistently treated.
“There was a pattern to their lives and OP was the fat sister/ugly duckling and they don’t know how to deal with it,” one reader commented. “Usually families/groups try to bully the changed person back into the pattern, but I don’t see them getting her to put 100 pounds back on in 2 weeks.”