Even after over two decades of marriage, Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith are still working on their relationship—and as clichéd as it sounds, communication for them is the key. Especially in the bedroom.
During a recent Red Table Talk, Pinkett Smith opened up about what she’s learned about being a good partner, including letting go of certain “fantasies.”
“It’s hard,” the mother of two said, per E! Online, “The thing Will and I talk about a lot is the journey. We started in this at a very young age, you know, 22 years old. That’s why the accountability part really hit for me because I think you expect your partner to know, especially when it comes to sex. It’s like, ‘Well, if you love me, you should know. If you love me, you should read my mind.’ That’s a huge pitfall.”
She continued, “You tell me what you need. Tell me what you want, and on top of it, I know that I have to be accountable to do the same…. I really try. It’s uncomfortable, but it’s deeply healthy, and I think around sex, because it’s something that we don’t talk about and there’s so much fantasy around it.”
Jada Pinkett Smith’s guest, Gwyneth Paltrow, agreed, asking, “Isn’t it weird, though? It’s like someone doesn’t read your mind and we feel crushed.” Amen.
Paltrow, who is now married to producer Brad Falchuk, recently opened up about giving birth to her daughter, Apple, via emergency C-section. On Dax Shepard’s Armchair Expert podcast, Paltrow revealed (per People), “My daughter was an emergency. It was crazy—we almost died. It was, like, not good.” The actor and Goop founder didn’t go into more detail about the event but did mention that the ensuing scar was a little shocking. “Anyway, there’s a big scar across your body, and you’re like, ‘Oh, wow, that didn’t use to be there,’” she said. “And it’s not that it’s bad, or you want to judge it, but you’re just like, ‘Oh my God.’”